Does A Course in Miracles Teach That I Desire a Holy Relationship in Order to Awaken?
I want to ask you by what A Course in Miracles means by Holy Relationship. In one part of the book it covers “entering the ark” together, and it almost sounds as though you need one other specific person in order to awaken. Therefore, I think I approach each new person with the expectation that maybe THIS could possibly be the partnership that reflects enlightenment if you ask me, and I in their mind! Am I taking this too literally? Or do you really have to have another to assist you awaken?
I appreciate your time so much and thanks for your help if you ask me and others. I thanks and I thank God for you. Namaste.
David Hoffmeister: Thanks for your openness and your willingness to appear deeply at what’s underneath these topics and issues. acim A Course in Miracles teaches that the split mind contains both the situation (the ego) and the Solution (the Holy Spirit). When they’re brought together, only One remains.
Your body and the world are always the focus of ego’s perspective, because of it seeks to make real problems and struggles in the world and to prevent the inner Healing Correction of the Holy Spirit. The ego’s distorted world is the product of identity confusion, an outpicturing of the belief that it is possible to make an identity which God did not create. The ego is this identity problem and it absolutely was Answered or forgiven by the Holy Spirit the instant it did actually arise. That one problem could possibly be described being an authority problem or a confusion in who’s the writer of Reality. The mind that believes in the reality of the time-space cosmos has a get a grip on issue, because of it believes so it can produce itself. This ego mind also thinks it is in competition with God, although that is pushed out of conscious awareness. This unconscious ego thought system is exposed in the A Course in Miracles Workbook lessons, and Lesson 13 contains a great example of the unveiling:
“A meaningless world engenders fear because I think I’m in competition with God.”
This is the beginning of training the mind to forgive, for the focus is cut back to the mind, back again to thinking, and taken away from the human body and the world. Anorexia, weight issues, body image issues, and interpersonal relationship issues are types of projection, of seeing the situation where it is not: in the world. The mind cannot tolerate the belief in a war with God, which means this belief is pushed out of awareness. The deep-seated control issue this kind of belief entails is then projected to the human body and the world. Weight control, like any attempt to regulate the script or the human body, is an effort to regulate the past. The Holy Spirit teaches that the past can only just be forgiven or released or regarded as false—not fixed or controlled or changed.
The exact same ego dynamic is underneath interpersonal relationship struggles of power and control, of wanting to repair or change a person or a self-image. Personal relationships might appear to sail happily along for awhile, yet the make-believe self-concept IS the personal perspective and thus is definitely on shaky ground. Decisions are continuous. The Holy Spirit is a decision. The ego is a decision. Atonement is your choice that ends all decisions, an acceptance of the changelessness of Mind. The ego is your choice to believe that the mind can be separate from God. Once the mind believed so it had separated and built this time-space world, this time-space world of bodies became its substitute identity, as it believed it had thrown away the Kingdom of Heaven. The planet was created up instead identity. The sleeping mind is split on your choice of identity. The Holy Spirit says, “This world is not Identity. This world is definitely an illusion.” And thus the Holy Spirit reminds the mind constantly, “This world is not your Home. This world is not your Identity. This world is not real.” Whilst the mind is split it is hearing another voice (the ego) that’s saying: “You’ve done it. You’ve separated from God. You’d better make the most effective of it and find something of the world to identify with. You are able to never return back for God will punish you.”
Thought-form associations seem to become substitute identity. The ego mind seems to be identified with the human body, with family, with environments that seem to surround it (i.e., I’m an American, Japanese, I’m male, I’m female, I’m from a wealthy family, from a poor family, I’m Catholic, Jewish, Protestant, etc.) Many of these are thought-form associations. And these seeming other persons and places surrounding the little personal self are all part of the construction. The mind is quite shaky concerning this small identity, this small self, this little me. So the little me is shaky, and it looks like other persons give the little me reality and importance (i.e., you’re my son, my daughter, you’re my boss, you’re a loving father, etc.) and all the different issues that these images seem to be telling this little me seem to be really important. Praise thus seems extremely important (i.e., you’re a person and you’re a good one!).
Praise and acceptance from others SEEM to stabilize this very shaky thing (i.e., you’re a good lover, you’re a good provider, you’re great with the kids, you’ve a fine intellect, you’ve this kind of heart, you help serve so many other people, you’re a good team-player, on and on). This facet of the self-concept says that you’re a person and you’ve most of these positive attributes that basically make you an invaluable and worthy person, that make you be noticeable above the crowd. You’re not only anyone—you’re somebody special. The flip side is criticism, which directly reflects the shaky sense of self. Criticism would be: you’re not as great as you think you’re, you’re not this kind of good team player, this kind of good provider, so good in bed—all the stuff which are taken as insults to the personal self-concept). That’s the flip side of the strokes. To this ego self-concept that believes both parties (the positive and negative) of thinking are real, the Holy Spirit is perceived as a good threat, for the Holy Spirit results in the knowledge of forgiveness or the realization that none of the tiny images perceived as separate have any reality.
When the criticism seems ahead, the ego attempts a substitution. It thinks, “I don’t need this. I’ll go elsewhere and start other relationships with people who will appreciate my talents and skills and abilities, appreciate my personhood. I’ll avoid those negative influences in the world and those negative people. I’ll find another person or join friends where people are like-minded and neglect the remaining world. These new people will require to me and stroke me and praise me.” The attempt at substitution is an effort to maintain an expression of specialness, an expression of separation, an expression of individuality (a private mind with private thoughts). Those attempts are special love relationships. They seem to strengthen worth and value and to validate personhood. And they provide a false witness for clinging to the ego as identity. To the ego, past associations serve to give personhood some sense of stability and consistency and value. Yet, the Holy Spirit implies that past associations offer nothing of value, for these were created by the ego to deny the reality of God’s Love.
Holy relationship emphasizes and reflects Content (right-minded thinking) and posseses an awareness of the meaninglessness of form. Whilst the ego’s believed relationships will seem to be specific, yet each one will present a chance to release the belief in specifics. Divine Mind is Abstract and Universal. Forgiveness may be the bridge to the remembrance of Christ and God, Divine Abstraction. Thus the Holy Spirit teaches in A Course in Miracles:
“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him you might find yourself. As you treat him you will treat yourself. As you think of him you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will see yourself or lose yourself. Whenever two Sons of God meet, they’re given another chance at salvation. Don’t leave anyone without giving salvation to him and receiving it yourself. For I’m always there with you, in remembrance of you.